My Journey to Reach Self Love

      Why Did I I Choose Not to Date at This Time?

     Hello everyone, I am Nabila Aulia, usually called Nabila. I am currently studying at Brawijaya University Malang with an English Literature study program. Here I'am want to share my stories about self love. according to the title I wrote, namely "why did i choose not to date at this time?". yes, maybe you are familiar with these words. I write this blog because of the experiences I have had, which is if it is not related to guys. Well before I tell you about my personal experience, I want to ask all of you, have you ever thought that you just want to be alone, don't you just want to go out first? surely many of you think like that and me too. Well I'll start telling you why I don't want to date at this point. First off, I'm always stuck in "php" LoL. I used to be in grade 10 high school, I was just made an outlet, yeah, God hurts, it's not playing guys !!!!! then after the incident I was single until grade 11. now when I was in grade 12, I was close to my classmates. From there I thought that if I had a crush, yes, but after 4 months I was introduced to a guy from my best friend. from there I thought duh how do I leave him or choose my friends? I was really confused at that time but in the end I chose a guy who was introduced by my friend. 

     This is an interesting story that I will never forget the story of  "uwu" hahaha. At the beginning of his "pdkt", he was really sweet to me but in mid-term he changed like that and he wasn't romantic anymore. as time went on for 4 months, he suddenly disappeared from me and said if he wanted to. what the hell from there I immediately fell down when I got to know a guy again so I just moved on for 2 months. from there I was really tired already, no longer bothered than to be hurt, right? At first I thought that dating is nice, so you can do it like other people, but the expectation doesn't match with the reality well. after I often php with boys, I'm more and more sure to stop not dating for now. My thoughts are not in line with my heart, well I still want to date or somehow hehe. At that time I was often fooled by boys, whether they were lied to, given false hopes, sweet promises, and many more. The second reason I am dating in Islam is adultery. yes even if it's thinking about it, looking at it, not even touching it. well from there I am more and more convinced not to date first for now and I don't want my parents to go to hell because I'm dating. the third reason, we can love other people but we can't love ourselves, isn't it weird? well from here I think more and more how come yes I can love other people but I can not love myself. actually what is the meaning of self love? I think the meaning of the word self love is how we love ourselves to be grateful for what is in us as well as if the word millennial child is insecure. eits, not only that! we can also love ourselves in the following ways: 

1. Usually I often look for activities whether it's tiktok an or something important can forget him

 2. Never feel excessive insecure 

3. Find and explore your talents or hobbies that you like 

4. When in a public place, show that you are happy, not sad 

5. Listen to or read podcasts about self love often

 6. improve yourself 

7. use your time alone to play anywhere or it can be called me time 

     So, that was a little way to love myself guys!!!! besides the reasons above I also don't want to interfere with my activities for the sake of dating. It's good, guys, there's also time for dating. that's all and thank you guys I hope you guys like my blog <3